Reader Review of 𝐻𝑜𝑤 𝑇𝑜 𝐿𝑜𝑣𝑒 𝑆𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑌𝑜𝑢 𝐶𝑎𝑛'𝑡 𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑛𝑑

Hi College Press family, 

I read the book How to Love Someone You Can’t Stand by Milton Jones. This book was challenging and insightful, with a lot of practical content I was able to learn from. One important concept he covered was  going above and beyond to “ do something beautiful” for my enemies. I realized love was more than just “forgive and forget” but it was to do something actively kind, some sort of service to or for an enemy. 

How to Love Someone You Can’t Stand reminded me of the concept of forgiveness and love for our enemies. This isn’t a popular viewpoint in today’s world, but giving away “control” of judgment to God is empowering. I was encouraged to make sure that when someone hurts me, I need to forgive them by not demanding personal justice for the thing they did wrong to me, but letting the Lord work to transform or judge them rightly.

I would absolutely recommend this book to anyone who has to do life with other people (I guess that includes all of us). I would also recommend this book to small groups. It has thought provoking questions at the end of each chapter that would be helpful in that context.

Mark - College Press Staff

30 years old, single, Christian for 19 years.